A girl from my school said one of her strengths is the ability to refuse the immediate relief of a coping mechanism and instead face the problem at its root I believe but isn’t that a coping mechanism in itself? According to dictionary.reference.com, a coping mechanism is: an adaptation to environmental stress that is based on conscious or  unconscious choice and that enhances control over behavior or gives psychological comfort. Regardless of whether her action of facing a problem head on is an unconscious or conscious decision, isn’t it technically a coping mechanism? She has adapted, or evolved to encounter problems immediately and demolish them before they cause any more pain I guess and that gives her psychological comfort and enhances control over whatever she is feeling. I’m no psychologist, and I know I shouldn’t be basing my opinion off one online definition, but I can’t help but question everything. 

Since self harm is no longer an option for me as of May 2014 I believe, my new coping mechanism is, well one of my coping mechanisms, is fangirling over boys lol